5 Tips To Beat Sexual Anxiety & Enjoy Better Sex
Are you’re feeling anxious and nervous when it comes to sex? Well you’re not alone. Many people around the world struggle with sexual anxiety, whether it’s related to body image, performance anxiety, past trauma, or simply lack of experience. But being scared or insecure in bed can affect your sex life and overall well-being and worst of all, cause problems with your partner. Here are some helpful tips on how to be braver between the sheets and enjoy sex without fear!
- Practice self-love and acceptance.
The first important step in overcoming sexual anxiety and feel more comfortable when it comes to sex, is learning to love and accept yourself just the way you are. Whether you’re struggling with body image issues, self-doubt, or past trauma, it’s important to acknowledge and validate your feelings. It’s also worth remembering that your partner is also a human being and he too can deal with exactly the same fears. Don’t forget that you are enough just the way you are!
- Communicate with your partner.
Communication is key to a fulfilling sex life. If you’re feeling nervous or uncertain, talk to your partner about your concerns. Ofcourse anxious thoughts are supremely personal, but let your partner in on them. It’s an important part of intimacy. Be honest and open about your feelings and needs. Your partner may be able to offer reassurance and it’s completely okay and very normal to ask your partner for it – but just not too much otherwise it could be felt as neediness.
- Explore your desires.
Another way to build confidence in bed is to explore your desires and fantasies. It really helps to increase self-confidence in bed if you know what you like, what your desires and secret fantasies are. Take time and get to know yourself and your body, discover and try – see what feels good. Try different toys and see what appeals to you. The more you know about your desires, the easier it is to communicate them to your partner. Need ideas? Don’t worry, we have selected a few toys for you that are perfect to start figuring out your fantasies and desires! Vibrating SexToys, Games For Couples, Remote Butt Plug, desire BDSM kit.
- Be Present
Focus on the present moment: It’s easy to get caught up in your own head during sex, worrying about how you look or how you’re performing. As a society we struggle with overactive minds, letting our thoughts run riot and preventing us from being in the ‘here and now”. But this can take away from the pleasure of the experience. Instead, try to focus on the present moment and the sensations you’re feeling. Take deep breaths and stay present with your partner, enjoying the physical and emotional connection between you. Don’t forget that your partner feels when you are not there.
Also it’s useful to understand how different people experience sexual desire. For women, the mind-body connection is really important. For the majority of women, we experience what is called ‘responsive desire’. This is different from most men who experience what is called ‘spontaneous desire’. So keep in mind that it’ll be much trickier for women to feel present in the moment and focus on feeling pleasure if their mind is in overdrive.
“The mind-body
connection is really important”
- Take it slow.
Remember that there’s no rush when it comes to sex. Take your time and go at a pace that feels comfortable for you. Don’t feel pressured to perform or meet any expectations. The more relaxed and comfortable you feel, the more enjoyable the experience will be.
In conclusion, sexual anxiety is a common issue that can have a significant impact on your sex life and overall well-being. But with some self-love, communication, exploration, mindfulness, and patience, you can build your confidence and become braver between the sheets.
